The Silent Guides & My Hidden Chimp
The Silent Guides
During our childhood we learn to manage emotions and thinking by developing coping strategies. These strategies, whether helpful or unhelpful, often progress into habits for life – our Silent Guides. Helpful habits can give many advantages in life. Unhelpful habits that persist into adult life usually bring stress and can be detrimental to our day to- day functioning, psychological health and relationships.
The Silent Guides has two themes:
• To help adults to consider and understand where some of their unhealthy or destructive learnt behaviours and beliefs might have come from, and then offer ways to replace them with healthy and constructive behaviours and beliefs. • To offer ideas and support to parents, teachers or carers that could help children to form healthy and constructive habits and prevent unhealthy or destructive habits from developing. Examples of unhelpful thinking, behaviours and habits that can be changed include: • Being overly self-critical • Fear of failure and unforgiving perfectionism • Worrying excessively or overreacting to situations • Procrastinating • Living with low self-esteem Examples of helpful thinking, behaviours and habits include: • Getting over mistakes • Developing a positive outlook • Being able to talk through your feelings • Seeking appropriate help • Being proactive
My Hidden Chimp
There is also a companion book specifically for children, titled My Hidden Chimp. The children’s book features easy to follow explanations and simple strategies to help them understand how their mind works. With ten habits to put into practice, such as smiling, saying sorry and talking about your feelings, children can work on managing their behaviour and emotions and understand why they sometimes behave and feel the way they do.